10 Ways To Make Your Child A Confident Speaker

Speaking is an art with a science and that too speaking confidently is about a strategy that cannot be brushed aside as an ordinary exercise in child’s play. If started early it come effortlessly while for a late entrant to the skill is perpetually struggling. To groom confident speakers , a few pointers can be path breaking trial of competence in anyone kids or adults alike.

1.      Speaking is all in the head and is a developmental process. So it is important for our kids to have better beliefs about self , about acquiring knowledge and speaking per se.

2.      Encourage them to read books and to expose them to varied subjects , writing styles , powerful vocabulary and to gradually but surely fall in love with newer perspectives on incidences and more.

3.      It always helps to engage them in basic courtesies ( face to face , on phone , mails etc ) and a brief talk (especially for hesitant speakers )to share and challenge any of their limiting beliefs and fears about speaking.

4.      The magic mantra for confident speakers lies in a presupposition “I HAVE SOMETHING OF VALUE TO SHARE” OR “ I CAN DO IT”. It helps them approach speaking with a relaxed mindset and an unshakeable conviction. It thus reflects in their body language too.

5.      Awareness of the ingredients or the secret sauce of confident speakers includes appreciation of voice modulation , eye-contact, body language and sense of humor and can be untying the threads of doubt and incompetence if any.

6.      Let the kids have the privilege to be part of one or the other speaking clubs in your area. It makes them consciously aware of their shortcomings and provides a platform to express and a group of participants ...all that combined puts the odds in their favour.

7.      Kids who are allowed to voice their opinions , and express their feelings are naturally competent speakers. so the next time you snub them and cut them short while they speak , please make sure you have a reason for that.

8.      Modelling by being a good speaker is a sure shot process of persuasion to inspire your young bundles to stand up well to the task. Work on being a non-judgemental parent with a love for language/words/learning/reading.

9.      Behind every confident speaker is a that is well rehearsed and that too ideally minimum 3-14 hrs prior to its delivery. The more they practise their script , the better it is internalised and the outcome is the ability to sound natural and of course a relaxed body language and loads of eye-contact.

1.  Finally it all boils down to ‘STATES’..WHICH IS AN AMALGAMATION OF PICTURES/VISUALS (GOOD OR BAD BOTH) AND THE BODY LANGUAGE!!

If they visualise themselves as faltering , miffed & fearful , paralysingly conscious of the audience , the whole confidence goes for a toss.

Having made aware of the two together and the power of state management (by combining mental images and body language ) , let them visualise (initially a conscious effort though)of the goodness of teh experience , belief in self , and of sharing valuable information with others.

It will definitely put the demons of fear , and incompetence to rest and ensure an empowering state coupled with a body language that spells ‘CONFIDENCE’.

8 Psychological Tricks To Get Your Kids To Do Exactly As You Say!

Actions spring out of what we fundamentally desire and the best piece of advice for would –be persuaders (PARENTS in this context )  whether at home , at work or in social circles remains : “ FIRST AROUSE IN OTHER PERSON AN EAGER WANT. HE WHO CAN DO THIS HAS THE WHOLE WORLD WITH HIM.HE WHO CANNOT WALKS A LONELY WAY.” – Harry. A . Overstreet in Illuminating Human Behaviour.

1.     In my experience , Going by the above adage ... the only way to ensure that your kids toe the line is by being reasonable and in touch with some common sense. Consider what is in their for our young ones and letting them know the positive fall outs of it is a sure shot way forward.

2.     Being ecological in your demands and expectations of your kids has never gone wrong. Ecology implies that what you wish for, should have everyone’s interests and a win-win proposition in place. For example  how sticking to schedule would benefit them in growth , learning and performance in studies and overall  development and also  would be a source of sanity and ample free time to attend to other things craving for your attention.

3.     Giving orders / sermons / Do not argue types statements are bound to have an antagonistic effect on the kids and their listening to your well meaning preaching. Instead try to give options / choices a preference and keep the channels of synergy  , communication and compliance open. This makes them feel that he is party to the decision making and not merely complying under threat or compulsion.

4.     Accept the fact that given the kind of exposure  , today’s kids are a leader’s mindset. Let’s be mindful of the gap that exists today as we were particularly a follower’s mindset. This will keep your demands from your kids in a balanced perspective. It will help them  develop critical thinking and discussion temperament as the modern day skills.

5.     Kid’s map of things , situations , and people is pretty small and thus quite intense. So getting them  to do what you want might involve loads of shifting gears and discussions. Let’s get into  the  process of adopting varied perception by stepping into their shoes or better still by being a fly on the wall to view their resistance from a dissociated viewpoint. Believe me It will give you an unbiased overview of the situation and promote greater empathy for your kids. Needless to say , once this is practised there’s no stopping form here for your kids to comply with what you desire.

6.     One important aspect to remember whether we deal with kids or adults is as to how what you want is going to be beneficial for them and would be of  help  in the long run. They are so in love with themselves and with the pay-offs of their little / habitual (at times mindless) reflexes that by simply knowing what is in it for them  is often their primary focus in doing what you want them to do.

7.     Using Influence or Strategy is much more a workable solution while manipulation / tactics / tricks are only having feet of sand. Tricks remain a dirty word. You may trick your kids a couple of times into doing what you want but at the expense of loosing your long term credibility! Big price –whoa!!

8.     Finally , asking yourself “ How can I make my child to do it? “ This simple exercise will let lose the reins of your subconscious mind to more influence based ways for the same. I twill unleash ways to create the “Eager Want “in your child and the magic would never cease to exist.